I love a new song. I don’t always love it when I hear a new song, love it, and then can’t remember the name, the artist, or much of the tune. I can usually remember a bit of the chorus–that repetitive part that sticks in my mind. We all do it. It drives us crazy and we go around asking people, “Hey, Have you heard that song? You know! The new one. I don’t remember who it’s by, but the chorus goes something like this. . . .” (off key singing begins here!)
So I’m in the Song of Solomon, or Song of Songs as it seems to be called now. Either way, it’s a new song for me. I’ve always kind of avoided this book as I’m not much of a romantic, and am not particularly comfortable talking about, well, you know, the kinds of things that are in Song of Solomon. I’m still a bit baffled by some of it, and I laugh at a lot of the analogies. For example:
Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon looking towards Damascus.
Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from Gilead
You teeth are like a flock of sheep coming up from the washing. Each with its twin, not one of them is alone.
Each of these could definately top the list of best pick up lines ever. But, crazy compliments aside, there seems to be a chorus in this book, and it goes something like this.
“Do not awaken love until it so desires.”
This chorus in Solomon’s song is found three times–in chapter 2, verse 7; chapter 3, verse 5; and chapter 8 verse 4.
Since Solomon knew a lot about women, well, let at least he knew a lot of women, it seems to reason there is a good reason for these words to be in here. And whether you hold to the camp that Solomon wrote the book or it was written about Solomon, it appears that someone observed (long before Diana Ross’s momma) that you can’t hurry love, you just have to wait, and perhaps thought others would be needing the warning. By the way, I love when God does that–you know, shows us that way back then He was thinking about what we would need to be hearing right about now-love that!
We are living in times when we are most definately awakening love before it so desires. It’s as though we are sounding alarms to wake it up, yet can’t figure out why we are so darn tootin tired all the time. We wake it up through the way we dress, style our hair, put on our makeup, the words we use, the people we use them around as we head out into the world–looking for love in all the wrong places. Out of our loneliness, we hurry love, rather than letting it rest until the right time. And we jump right out of loneliness. . . into loneliness. And it looks like people were living in those same kind of times even back in Solomon’s day.
In teaching preteens, teens and women’s ministry, it is often my advice to simply put God first. Seek God, as the Proverb says,
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.” Proverbe 3:4-5
Seek Him and He will lead you to a romantic love, if that is where He desires you to go. But seek romantic love first, and it will most often lead you away from God, which is the greatest loneliness of all.
I spoke with someone once about this concept. Their reply, “If I just surrender and trust God, He’s going to change my plans.” My reply, “Maybe, but if you surrender and trust God, you won’t care if He changes your plans.” I believe that with all my heart. It’s not just words to say that His ways are best, right, and truthworthy, it’s truth. It may not always be easy, but it is always worth it.
By hurrying love, by waking it up before it’s time, we open a door to heartache, hurt, sin, loneliness, baggage (or luggage, if your fancy!) that is not God’s plan for us at all. So start singing that chorus, or if “don’t awaken love before it’s time” isn’t sticking in your head, you can always remember Diana Ross and the Supremes, whose mommas told them, “You can’t hurry love, no you just have to wait. Love don’t come easy. It’s a game of give and take.” Motown’s spin on the Song of Solomon, have you heard that song?