Adult-ery. . .
. . .In its simplest form is a grown up thing. Yet, it is a grown up thing that affects us all–especially our children.
During the month of October in our children’s ministry, HiSKidZ were challenged to memorize the 10 Commandments. Towards the end of the month each small group chose a commandment and then decorated a pumpkin to represent that commandment. My older son joked from Russia, “Who’s going to get adultery?” Well, with 8 small groups and 10 Commandments, that one fell to me.
I created the simple pumpkin above centering more on the honor side of the commandment than the dishonorable side of it. (This worked, in part, because we were also studying about honor in the Bible last month. Besides, what else would you put on that pumpkin????)
As the kids were coming in they stopped to check out my pumpkin. A couple asked what is meant and I told them it was commandment #7 “Do not commit adultery,” and one replied quite nonchalantly, “Oh yeah, my dad did that.” Broke. My. Heart.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know that dads are not the only ones who either initiate or commit adultery, but just because moms and people without children do it, too, does not make it right.
But since today is a “Dadderday” post, I want to talk to the dads for a second.
Dads. Don’t do it.
Count the cost.
Live with honor
Express self control.
Keep your vows.
Get right with God.
Parent your children.
For your sake, for your wife’s sake, for your children’s sake, for the sake of the name of the Lord, for the other person’s sake. . . .
Stop acting like an adult-erer and begin acting like a child of God again.
Matthew 26:41 says, “Keep watching and praying that you may not enter into temptation; the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
So often we read this verse and we center in on one part of the verse and are like, “Oh man, the flesh is weak, what can I do?”
What can we do??? We can look at the other four parts of the verse that’s what can do.
Don’t enter into temptation.
The Spirit is willing.
That’s 4-1 in favor of victory, and the fact that “the flesh is weak” is in there isn’t an excuse for sin; it’s a warning against it.
Dads, I have no idea where you are right now in your life, your job, your home, your walk with God, but I know that there are little people watching everything you are doing, and your actions have consequences and cause responses and reactions, some of which you will have no control over. But this one you do.
When it comes to the Ten Commandments, we teach HiSKidZ that the 10 are 2 and the 2 is just 1. The ten become “love God and love others.” And the two become one, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.” For when you live out the one, you want to live out the two, and when you are living out the two, you are living out the ten.
So do whatever it takes to live out #1, and #7 will take care of itself.