Don’t Let the Turkeys Get You Down (or What to Do When People Don’t Like the Decisions You Make)

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Anyone else remember the saying, “Don’t let the turkeys get you down,” from somewhere in their past. Truth is, I hadn’t thought of it since, well, since somewhere in my past, until Thursday morning when I came out of our laundry room in a rush to get off to work.

Needless to say I was a bit surprised when the two little guys pictured above startled the kajeebers out of me! That wonderful man of mine was getting ready for turkey season and left his “supplies” sitting out in the open without any warning to me, his unsuspecting wife.

After regaining my composure, into my mind popped the phrase, “Don’t let the turkeys get you down!”  I took that to be a  little good-natured Holy Spirit advice, and went on about my way–after taking a picture for a blog post, of course! After all,

“When life gives you turkeys, write a blog post.”

Why a blog post? Because those turkeys reminded me of several conversations I’ve had lately with people dealing with stressful situations in their jobs, relationships, and circles of influence. It also reminded me of some great advice that turkey hunting husband of mine gave me when I started out in children’s ministry.

You know, seriously, what do you do when you’ve made some decision or said something or done something that some people don’t like?

I mean, c’mon, you’re sincerely trying to do your best. You’re not purposefully trying to irritate people or make bad decisions. Yet, some people just can’t seem to be pleased, and they seem to want to roost in your territory! (I know, I know!)

So what are you gonna do?

Don’t let the turkeys get you down. Instead, you might gobble up these two plans of action: (Sorry, I couldn’t help myself!)

1) Consider that the person may be right. They are not a turkey at all; they are actually trying to help keep you from looking like a turkey. If this is the case, you will probably need to try one of these ideas:

  • Humble Yourself.
  • Admit you are wrong.
  • Make things right.
  • Be thankful someone helped you realize your mistake.
  • Press on.

2) Reconsider your position and why you made the decision/statement/policy you did. If after going to God, you still feel confident that your decision was the best choice for the time, then try one of these ideas:

  • Stay Humble–don’t gloat about being right
  • Stay the course, good leaders often have to make hard decisions.
  • Be thankful for the opportunity to be sure of your decision.
  • Keep focused on God.
  • Press On with confidence in your decision.

No one is ever going to please every one all of the time, and just because someone doesn’t agree with your decisions doesn’t make them a turkey. God can use even the most stressful people and situations as opportunities to show us where we are wrong, and remind us of where we are right.

Make it a policy to continually inquire of the Lord and wait on Him as you lead. Let Him guide your words, decisions, policies and practices as you humbly rely on Him so that even if people don’t agree with you, they will respect you.

They who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength and soar with wings like eagles — far above the turkeys!

Four Things I Want to Ask God

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Lately as I’ve been reading God’s Word, I’ve found myself simplifying Scripture by breaking it down into instructions or commands. Today as I was reading Psalm 139, God stopped me at David’s “instructions” to Him in verses 23-24. Since I’ve never been super comfortable telling God what I want Him to do, (I’m not saying David was wrong there, I’m just sayin’ it’s not some place I’m goin’ at this stage in my life), I figured I would turn them into questions.

So here they are.

Four things I want to ask God every day:

1) Lord, will you search me and show me my heart? I need to know what it’s really like. Don’t let me fool myself or let pride overtake me.

2) Lord, will you test me and show me my anxious thoughts? I need to know where I’m not trusting so my faith can grow.

3) Lord, will you see if there is any offensive way in me? I’m often blind to my own faults, and I need you to open my eyes.

4) Lord, will you lead me in the way that leads to life forever with You? I never want to be without you again.

I love these. Because I know without a doubt that as I stop and ask these questions that He will always answer, “Yes.” Even if the truth may hurt a little.

Because He loves me like that–and as I sit here on my couch writing, that thought gets me smiling.

Here’s another thought that gets me smiling.

He loves you like that, too. Just ask Him!

May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14

Oh Those Guys!–Dadderdays

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You can’t really see them in this picture. Well, you can see Matt. He’s standing right behind our ice cream loving group of female volunteers. Timmy is somewhere over to the side adding up the points trying to figure out who won from his team. Jerry is sitting with his wife, Debby, on a bench, and my husband, the slightly infamous, “Mr. Tim,” is taking the pictures.

Oh those guys!

We spent last night playing putt-putt golf as part of what we call “Destination Unknown.” A little event I try to plan every year for my Wednesday night leaders’ team. This is the first time we included the men. Sure, they were a little nervous. But they were great, and we had a great time with them there.

These guys are those guys who are the guys who make me smile! They are those guys who are pretty darn humble. They are those guys who are standing by their women. They are those guys who are serving in children’s ministries. They are those guys who are doing things that make them a little uncomfortable sometimes–like going on our destination unknown night, suspecting they could be going to a flower arranging class, but showing up at the church anyway. (I, btw, would never take my leaders to a flower arranging class. Not that there is anything wrong with flower arranging. It’s just not my thing. Therefore, while I am in charge of planning the “destination unknowns,” we will not be flower arranging!)

As usual, I digress.

These guys are those guys who are investing in kids lives whether their kids are grown, they’ve yet to have kids or their kids are part of the action. They are those guys who love God. Guys who, regardless of their age, continue to learn what it means to be a man of God. They are those guys who, though imperfect, do their best to lead, love, and live for Christ and to show their families, friends and our church what things like love, sacrifice and commitment mean.

Oh those guys! I love them! I am thankful for them and I appreciate them more than they will ever know.

There are others, and I believe there will be others. Other men who will refuse to stand down, continue to stand up, stand in and stand on making a difference wherever God leads them.

If you are one of “those guys,” I applaud you. Literally, right now in my living room, I am giving you a verbal shout out and a ginormous “praisallujah!” As always on Dadderdays, I want to encourage you to stay the course (even in putt putt), don’t give up and don’t give in. Be the man God has called you to be today and every day.

And have yourself a very happy Dadderday!