When a Man Loves a Woman–Thankful Thursday


Tonight my husband did another thing in that long list of things that he does best. He helped me. Actually that’s an understatement. Because the truth is, he did almost all the work. I helped him. You can almost see him in the picture above. He’s sort of in the shadows behind the angel that’s behind Mary and Joseph.

Earlier this afternoon I texted him asking, “Do you think you could stop by the church after work and help me put the nativity up?”

His reply, “O.K.”

Man of few words.

Around the end of November, he helped me and our 6th graders as we lugged “the family” out of the garage and freshened them up with a coat of paint. He made us a few new camel’s ears, tightened some loose screws and went on a search for the stakes we had apparently lost–again–that would help keep Mary, Joseph and the wise guys from falling over in the wind.

So he came by after work as I was beginning to put Mary and Joseph in their places! With my wrist still healing from the summer’s VBS break, there was no way I could hammer the stakes into the partially frozen rocky ground.

But he could. And he did. In the cold. Never complaining. Mary, Joseph, three camels, two angels, and three wisemen. I have no idea what happened to the shepherds. I don’t remember that we ever had shepherds, or sheep, but we have some pretty cool camels! (Which, btw, we did not put up on “hump day”, but that would have been pretty funny!)

And that is the man I am thankful for, not just on Thursdays, but every day.

He is the man who loves me unconditionally with all my crazy ideas. Trebuchet?? No problem. Toy Story themed rehearsal dinner? How can I help, honey?! (Yeah, there’s my wedding shout out for today!) Hang fake stone wall throughout the entire church? We’ll need a ladder. Hammer the holy family into frozen ground? O.K.

Drive 7 hours for a 2 hour soccer game? Let’s go! Invite a myriad of college students into our home? No problem. Repurpose furniture for the boy? Sure! Dance, twirl and spin? He gave it a try!

Listen to me when I’m frustrated, tired, and silly? Yup. Listen to me when I still have 3,800 of my 5,000 words a day left to go? (Did I mention he’s a little hard of hearing!) Allow me to travel to speak, teach, share, and encourage, even when it’s not always convenient? Uh-huh.

He is willing to eat sandwiches for dinner, embrace the leftover (he calls them scraps) and keep quiet when I chose Christmas cookies and tea for my dinner tonight.

The truth is that this man is THE BEST! and I am overwhelmingly thankful for him. He is a little quiet, a lot strong, totally humble and faithfully mine.

Why? Because these are the things a man does when he loves a woman. It makes him live differently. He puts my needs before his, and does all he can to make me look good. He encourages me and helps me shine, and when necessary he tells me “no,” every now and then, because he cares more about what is really best for me than what may seem best or what I may want at the time.

This weekend when we were at the wedding, I heard these same thoughts shared, and I watched our son model these same traits. Traits I see in his dad and that I see our first son live out with his wife, and it made me think that this Thursday, I’m not the only Farris wife who is thankful–giving me even one more reason to be thankful!

And I hope your Thursday is filled with thankfulness as well!

mom trevor and dad
Tim, who I am always thankful for, with me and Trevor, before the wedding.

The Wedding Miracle

Tonight we had the great privilege of attending the wedding of a young couple in our area. The minister, a friend of ours, used “the wedding miracle” passage as the beginning of the wedding message. The wedding miracle . . . that’s what we call it. Y’know it’s that story in John 2 where Jesus turns the water into wine at the wedding. There are so many good things in this story, but I had to wonder where Mark was going with this one in our room of mostly non drinkers. Was he really going to suggest we needed some wine at this wedding??

No, that’s not where he was headed at all. Instead, Mark used a mom quote. Maybe the best mom quote ever. I mean EVAH!!!! After Jesus’ mom lets Him know that the family has no more wine. She tells the servants, “Do whatever He tells you.” Sermon basically done.

That was the advice. “Do whatever He tells you.” And what awesome wedding advice it is. I mean, seriously, if each of us, in our marriages, simply lived each day, “doing whatever He tells us,” our marriages and our families and our lives, and our world would never be the same again.

Simply profound. “Do whatever He tells you.” Could it be that easy? Yeah, I think so.

So thanks, Evan and Kati for including us in your special day. Thanks, Mark, for speaking the Word so clearly. And thanks, Mary, for being an advice giving mom, speaking this little piece of instruction, which if followed, could become the real wedding miracle.

I Find That Very Pinteresting

Ahhh yes, I have become a Pinterest fan/follower/almost addict.  There are some things I really like about this wonderful sight where I can find awesome things–well, I mean where other people have found awesome things for me, and all I have to do is “pin” them to an imaginary board  (is it imaginary???) so I always know where they are.  I have yet to score a direct pin. But, alas, maybe someday.

However like all good things there are pros and cons to this Pinteresting phenomenon. Here are a few I’ve found.

5 Great Things About Pinterest

1.  Pinterest can spark your passion for God.  Through pics and posters of great Scripture, you can find your heart renewed and excited about the things of God.

2.  Pinterest can show you some great ways to show love to your spouse.  I made a board simply called “Husband Love” and am filling it with things that remind me why I love my husband, things I can do or make to be sure I’m showing him that love.

3.  Pinterest can help you better yourself as a parent.  I love all the great ideas for activities, helps, tips, etc. that I’m finding that relate to parenting. Chore Charts, postive sayings, love notes, winter (summer, spring, fall) things to do with your kids. Get out of the rut and find some great ideas for free.

4.  Pinterest can be a catalyst for bringing back the lost art of hospitality and entertaining.  There are more than a bajillion ideas on how to have any kind of party, gathering, game night. . . .don’t know what to do? Now you do.

5.  Pinterest can motivate you to get healthy and fit.  I have to admit, I get a little motivated by the slogans and sayings and Dr. Oz’s list of foods you should have in your house. I’m eating a little better and moving a little more than I did before.

5 Not So Great Things About Pinterest

1.  Pinterest can fool you into thinking you have passion for God. Pinning a page with a great scripture is not a substitute for digging into the treasure of God’s Word and then living it out. Take Caution that you don’t spend all your time “pinning”, and find yourself stilling “pining” for the One who wants your heart most.

2.  Pinterest can keep you from really loving your spouse.  If what your man or woman really wants and needs is for you to spend some time with them– like really talking or listening or going out sometime–Make sure you aren’t spending those precious moments with a laptop pinning “How to Really Love Your Husband” pictures to a board. Reading about love and really loving ARE NOT the same thing.  And one picture from someone else’s life does not their life make. Yours either. Grass looking greener. . . .start taking care of your own yard.

3.  Pinterest can mess up your head when it comes to being a parent. If you make the subtle mistake that a good parent is one who is doing all the stuff you see on Pinterest you are going to find yourself pinned to the wall, so to speak.  You probably can’t afford all the stuff you are pinning, and your kids don’t need all the stuff you are pinning. Your kids need you, so turn off the computer and go play with your kids, oh, and read the Bible with them. Maybe you can share a verse you pinned!

4.  Pinterest can actually keep you from entertaining. When you realize you don’t have that many mason jars, and that fondant isn’t really your friend, and that there is no way to keep up with the cyber Joneses who live, well who knows where they live but not down the block, you are likely to just forget having the real Joneses over. Besides who wants to have anyone over when you can just pin pictures about having people over. And then you won’t have to clean your house or do the laundry.

5.  Pinterest can motivate you to a false body image.  As far  I can tell, I’m seeing a lot of young (and older) women pinning pics of women who have been airbrushed and eating disordered to fame (I wanted to say  “to death”, which sadly is the truth, so I’m saying it anyway) . It’s not real, it’s not realistic, and it’s not healthy.

So have fun, just be careful little eyes what you pin. . . .